Observe and Listen.
Trust is vital between home and school, and all professionals. Encourage parents to seek out peer support, including Define Fine: Peer Support for School Attendance Difficulties
Most of all – make sure you check out what is meant by Fine. Define Fine.
Some professionals are at a loss to know how to help. They may try to help with advice based on their understanding or opinions. Really plans should be child-led, and evidence-based approaches. So many of our parents report being referred onto parenting courses, and or to Early help, only to find that the support they are offered isn’t suitable for these kinds of difficulties. It’s important to work with professionals and share recommendations for exploring the issues and in making a plan.
Each child and young person needs someone to listen, to advocate for their needs. Quite often this is their parents, who have usually known the child for the longest, and probably know them the best.
If a child tries to explain what they find hard about the school, about learning, relationships, the environment – or whatever else they are struggling with they need to have a voice. If they report bullying, including assault, this must be investigated and dealt with properly.
There will be a way forward, but it may not be the path they are currently on. They may need adjustments or flexibility. They may need somewhere or something else.